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How do I know that I have let it all go?. I smile, I laugh ,I  love and I grow.

  But when I think of my parents I lose all control.  I believe that I got this , but what I got is a hole.

It was never quite healthy. I have to admit. both of them substance abusive self inflicted addicts.

I laughed and I smiled i love and I grow. But that was my defense mechanism that got me through all the lows.

I felt I found peace when they both left to rest. But the hole is much deeper than I could address.

I cry, i hurt I weep and can’t sleep. It’s to hard to hide from what you can’t see.

I don’t have to tell them they knew how I felt. Through the innocent eyes of a child they felt guilt.

How do I know that I let it all go? Everyday is a new day that’s all that I know.

unconditional love is something only a dog can achieve.

There isn’t a moment of disappointment, jealousy, envy ,deception or greed.

There is no judgment of status that can detour their heart away from their owner.  I’ve seen people begging for change with their dog on a corner.

Their world revolves around our happiness. over backwards they’ll bend. Their faithful, loving and honest a true friend till the end.

loyalty to a fault is a rarity we see.         A dog will not falter until we are pleased. They live for our approval determined to achieve. They’ll sacrifice to protect us with every breath that they breathe.

  They are the epitome of how we should all live our lives. To love, to run, to bask in the sun. To eat and sleep the next day repeat.

The quality of life is determined by how much love they receive. The more devotion and affection the more their heart will conceive.

they build their confidence from praise and positive attention. In return we our showered with kisses of admiration.

We could learn so much from a dogs point of view. If nothing else appreciate and value all that they so.

Being responsible for your actions.  Why is it so hard to fess up to something we did wrong

Instead of taking responsibility and owning  our mistakes , we make excuses.

Being the first to admit our oversight or fault, we wait to hear it from another person’s mouth. Knowing how much we can’t stand the figure pointed in our direction.

First instinct is to go on defenseProtect our ego, our pride.  while honesty and integrity take a back seat.

Self awareness and or being present to our imperfections,  misjudgments. omissions and mishaps shows self respect, dignity, confidence.  Even when vulnerable to humiliation.

Deflection replaces owning up to the truth. it’s easier to take a pass or point out something another has done. We rather play victim. 

All the work and energy it takes to avoid the ownership of our mistakes, can easily be defused, forgiven and forgotten about with one word.  

SORRY…….

After all, none of us are perfect, and we all make mistakes.  confessing to our aberrations  is not only the best way but the shorter route to the truth. 

In my life I have been fortunate to be surrounded by strong alpha females.

I’m talking about self motivated independent women that don’t take no for an answer.

Women that have the drive and ambitions to stand up for themselves and pave their own way without any support of a male figure.

Some Men are turned off or insecure to be around such a woman.

I myself find it liberating and inspirational.

Women have always had to work harder to be noticed, to be acknowledged, to be appreciated.

What most men won’t admit, is woman have been the backbone to our existence. They are not only our nurturers, mothers, wives, homemakers, cooks. They are our support system.

They take notes, they listen. So when we need a shoulder or Encouragement or maybe a word of advice that influences us to make a sound decision, they are there to do so.

No successful man has made his mark without a loyal, loving supportive woman by his side.

Furthermore they have to know how to handle what comes with the territory. So they learn to be strong and have tough skin.

Nowadays women don’t have to stay in the shadows of their man, boss or any male figure.

They have evolved to take initiative, make their own decisions and create their own fortunes.

There’s alot of women that utilize there physical gifts to get what they want. I do not hate or oppose this at all.

But it’s the women that Work hard to climb the ladder to the top of the food chain I admire the most.

It may be men that run the world but it’s woman that run the men.

So who’s really in charge?!

A father is a someone who is there to guide you, to provide for you, to love you and support you in every way possible.

He is a teacher, a preacher a man of good character, to help mold his children into  a better version of himself.

His positive influence helps build confidence, to overcome fear. To be the backbone, rock and foundation for his children to grow proud courageous and motivated; in any adventures, endeavors or situations they face in life.

His love and affection spawns self esteem  and inspires greatness.  which helps his children have an advantage and a real chance for success. 

A devoted father will pick u up when u fall, reassure you it’s gonna be OK.  To get back out there and never give up.  to teach you by example that the only way to fail is to quit.

Our fathers are the guidance the strength the balance we need to becoming a well rounded individual. 

this goes out to all the fathers that are more than just a seed donor

Even more so to the woman that have raised their children alone and had to wear both hats.

I commend you all!  Bless you all! happy Father’s day!

holding on to things that have traumatized you in the past, can only effect you more in the present.

We have to learn to let things go. For it will not only weigh us down, it will hold us back.

holding on to the past.

past events that have had a negative effect on our lives can carry over to other aspects that involve our lives now. The way we think, perceive, and the way we process.

whether it’s family, friends, or our love life. We subconsciously categorize, compare, and relate all past experiences with our existing relationships now.

facing your problems

confronting the matter and Finding closure can be the healthiest life altering change you can possibly do.

taking control of your life and not letting disappointments from your past dictate the way you think and maneuver into your presence and future

holding on to things and constantly collecting and stuffing them into the back of u your closet is not good for your mental health. 

resurfacing

The older we get the more and more it wants to resurface and eventually we have to deal with it.

taking a stand

confront your feelings,  find the source. Get your closure. you will feel relieved and at ease when you do follow through with this.

For our well-being, We have to look at the picture as a whole, in order to forgive, release and let things it go..

understanding

growing up with just my mother to raise me, I’ve taken notice of the struggles and challenges a single mother may encounter.

A mother’s place

There was a time when a mother’s place was home with her children while the father had a career and provided for his family. The women and children depended on the father.

reality

If the relationship didn’t work out and the parents divorced, it left the mother with no skills other than being a house wife.

whats next

This was a common situation that happened back in the 1970’s and early 80’s. Leaving a mother to still depend on child support, alimony and at worst government assistance.

regroup

Survival mode sets in and a mother that  feels she has a bigger purpose finds a way to provide.

Going back to school to get a degree.  Or a trade school to get skills to enter the job world. Having to wear many hats in the household, besides Nurturer and provider.

prioritize

Kids are left home. While the mother enters the work force.  Leaving the mother to trust her children will behave, do their homework and chores after school.

determined to find balance she manages to provide enough time to give attention to her children in-between work and sleep. Sacrificing any leisure time for herself.

unconditional love

A mother’s love for her children cannot compare to anything on this earth. It’s unconditional, loyal and selfless. They will go to great lengths to keep their children safe.

There is no one that can replace her or compare. this woman has made you ‘ raised you. She is a mother, father, teacher, chef, chauffeur, cheerleader, a nurse and bread winner.

be present 

You will always need your mother. Her job is never done. Tell her thank you, I love you. There will be no one stronger than your mother in your lifetime. She is to many, a Hero.